They are essential to our history, centered in our media, a staple of our culture.
When we find that personal language, gay clubs are presented to us as one such place. Before we even know the words to describe ourselves, a lot of queer people are searching for a place where we belong. Sure, the pandemic and age restrictions, but you’ve probably been waiting even longer. After all, you’d been waiting for this experience for so long. Maybe you had a vision of what that night would be like and were disappointed by the reality. I’m not sure why you had your reaction to the gay club - but I have some ideas. I go home, questioning my disappointment, wondering why I feel so swirly inside. I want to go with the group to the gay club but I feel it’s not my place - even though some of my straight friends are tagging along. We walk by a gay club and the group splits. It’s late and the night is either coming to a close or just beginning. I’m with some of these friends and some gay friends of friends. I’m about to start my junior year of college and as far as I know I’m straight and all my friends are straight. I don’t know, am I crazy? Overreacting? How can I actually enjoy myself in a gay club? Do I even have to like gay clubs? A: Even my queer friends don’t get why it bothers me so much to see straight women there. It felt a bit like everyone there was a gay man or a straight woman, and I feel crazy for finding that really frustrating. Ok, so this past week I went to a gay club in downtown Toronto for the first time (I turned 19 during the pandemic, so I haven’t been able to go out until now) and I was expecting to have a grand old time where I felt super at ease and like I was surrounded by other queer people, and instead I felt super worried that I was somehow doing it wrong or that all the women/femmes who were there weren’t queer to begin with. The 200 Best Lesbian, Bisexual & Queer Movies Of All Time.LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now.